'When you judge a woman by her appearance it doesn't define her, it defines you' Dr Steven Maraboli

Women are terrible for this! How often do you make internal or external judgements about another woman’s appearance. Where is that thought coming from - a place of self worth or a place of insecurity?

Are you unconsciously filtering for evidence that you are better than someone else - because that’s what you are assuming every time you judge. Whether it’s her style, her clothes, her hair, her tattoos, her weight etc.

Maybe you have a deep rooted belief that overweight women are lazy and unfit. Therefore because you are not overweight, you are neither, and that makes you feel morally superior.

Maybe you have a belief that women who dress in skimpy clothing are promiscuous and attention seeking. If you don’t dress in that way then you are neither, and again you feel morally superior.

Maybe you have a belief that women who wear a lot of make-up and have cosmetic surgery are shallow and self obsessed. If you don’t do these things, then maybe you feel that makes you a more wholesome and intelligent person.

I could go on, but you get the picture.

I challenge you to notice when you are judging and then to look for the insecurity underneath. If you believe we are all equal, then there is no need to position yourself above anyone else. What if you made the decision to consistently respect other women’s model of the world and the choices they make?

If you are in the company of friends, family or colleagues who are openly judgemental then you can block the conversation by refusing to acknowledge the comments and changing the subject. It doesn’t mean you have to challenge everyone, just don’t give them fuel and don’t join in just to ‘fit in’. That also says a lot about your perception of your own value.

Choose to support and encourage other women. All of them, not just the ones who have the same values, tastes and interests as you!

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